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Individuals and couples have contacted me with the following concerns:
"We are in a crisis and currently separated after my husband’s affair. I am so confused about what to do next. My feelings are all over the place. Should we go for counseling? We need someone to talk to mediate our situation and then possibly work with us over the next few weeks or months until we are out of crisis and have a direction."
"My partner has left me for someone else and I need help getting my life back together again."
"My partner and I have been struggling for some time now. We don’t want a divorce. We need someone that could hear both sides of our situation objectively and give us feedback on what we can do to change our bad habits with each other. We feel we need some tools to help us stop our fighting and learn to listen to each other."
"My spouse has asked me for a divorce. We don’t want to contact attorneys because we fear it will destroy our kids and family. How could we start thinking about how to get space and not have the conflict ruin us?
With coaching we can talk individually or as a couple on a scheduled basis or as needed.
- You can tap into my 38 years of working with individuals and couples in a general mental health outpatient practice to hear first hand insights into your specific situation. I will be the first to let you know if I think your situation requires more than a coach as with depression, anxiety, bi-polar and other conditions that affect the personal quality of your life and relationships.
- Many individuals and couples I see are short term - sometimes needing just one or two sessions to help jump start their relationship while they have an opportunity to learn something about themselves. Others might meet with me over a few weeks or months until they feel they have some control and stability over their lives once again. This service should not be limited to outpatient counseling in an office, but available with more flexibility and convenience.
- You do not need a cooperating partner to help you learn what you can do about your situation now!
- Most consultation and coaching sessions are for one hour (60 minutes) in duration. Before we schedule our first session, I ask you to fill out a brief information sheet online. Then I will contact you to set up our first session. This could be with you alone or with a partner with whom you are in a relationship. I will usually ask you to start telling me about your current situation or problem and what you are most concerned with or need help with. I will help you focus on what is most important to you and what you can do right now. We will usually split the hour between you providing me with information, my asking questions and then providing feedback.
- Coaching is goal oriented to help you and your relationship get to where you want it to be. Here the emphasis is on your values and a vision of what you want in your life and how to get there. I do believe that you are the sum total of all your life experiences and you can make changes for you and your relationship. I will help you work on getting clarity on your beliefs, attitudes, feelings and behavior. I will help you develop goals that are consistent with what you value and who you are in a positive proactive way no matter where you are at or what condition your relationship is in presently. The goal of most psychotherapy and counseling is to allow you to understand and work through how you and your past experiences may be stopping you from what you want in life. Coaching actually turns the focus toward you and your relationship in the here and now. Coaching aims toward strengthening and empowering you. The vast majority of my couples and relationship work, even with just one individual, is a focus on education and learning new skills and behavior. Your self perception and that of your partner is heavily affected by what you think, believe, feel and value and therefore drives your behavior in life. I will also help you identify how you are resisting or blocking the very changes you say you want. The emphasis is on learning and taking action in the present. If you struggle with making changes because your past is limiting you, I may suggest more intensive counseling and/or psychotherapy if and as necessary.
After consulting with you I will often be able to tell you what might be most beneficial for you, your partner and relationship.
For consultations and coaching you will only talk to me, Bob Buchicchio, MSW, LICSW, DCSW and no one else.
Consultation/Coaching with one or both partners
Contact me now to set up a session -
My book, Taking Space-How To Use Separation to Explore the Future of Your Relationship, my newly released Couples Home Study Course and Telephone Consultations and Coaching and other educational CDs and DVDs are available to you and your relationship now.
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